Exploring a Black Woman’s Sexuality
“Whatever is bringing you down, get rid of it. You’ll find that when you’re free your true self comes out” Tina Turner
When I was a young woman, an ever-increasing awareness of my body with all its budding curves overcame me with an urge to explore my sensuality before I even knew what it meant. Those secret parts of my femininity tingled with desire though I had no idea why. When I touched myself, something so beautiful exploded into a universe of erotic possibilities that I know now was orgasm and I was liberated.
Biological desires and emotions of young ladies were taught to be left unexplored less they ‘get us into trouble’.
In my country, young women approaching the age of maturity are not supposed to feel this way. Precisely the opposite occurred because instinctive curiosity cannot be suppressed and always finds an outlet through self-expression. I was driven by a desire to understand my sexuality, to attain the joys of living in the moment with all that pleasure had to offer.
Ironically, erotic, sexual activity is regarded as natural
That is not to say that all women (or men for that matter) are promiscuous. For the Caribbean woman, a marked sense of appreciation for her sensuality rises above that what exists here in the States. She is not measured by rigid physical standards imposed upon by society for beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. Her bodily imperfections are just as celebrated as her physical endowments for they equal the sum of her eroticism.
Sexual discrimination in my country is not skewed as it is here in the U.S.
Jamaican culture understands that men inherently pursue women for sexual fulfillment by nature. Is that such a bad thing? With an air of tolerance, ladies enjoy the freedom of being able to dress as they like without being boxed in by social stigmas. How flattering are the woos of men who find us attractive? Lifestyle in the Caribbean includes a dance of seduction that doesn’t necessarily have to lead to sexual intercourse. As a Hartford, Connecticut escort, this wonderfully liberating spirit runs through my veins.
As a freethinking companion, I relish being celebrated by gentlemen friends
My sensual openness is rooted deep in a Caribbean culture not experienced by most American men . Empathy for the male psyche and its ways coupled with total acceptance of my sexuality always brings out the best in a sensual encounter.
This article is also mentioned on Geisha Diaries.